It is said that “Morning shows the day!” However, many a times, it is proved wrong. Wrong, due to a person’s late understanding, understanding her/his responsibilities lately, getting matured lately, circumstances & surrounding factors and many more. For such kind of people, rather we should say, “Where there is a will, there is a way!”. With their rigorous & continuous efforts, hard-work, determination, consistency & willingness to do something — they make it possible; to shine in their lives, lately.
There are plenty of examples, from the past, and even from our surroundings. To better understand, we can take the example of Mahakavi Kalidasa, Adikavi Maharshi Valmiki, Samrat Ashoka, and many more.
Many such great talents have set an example of their strong will power, dedication & devotion, self-motivation, and their continuous effort that led them establishing themselves in their respective lives. Here goes another saying — “All is well, that ends well!”
Children who show less interest in their studies, normal activities, less responsible towards their lives, become a matter of serious concern for their parents, for their families. It is obvious. Parents have great expectations and hope for a bright future for their wards, for their children. And, in that case, if their children do not come up to their level of expectations, they begin cursing their children, they make responsible their own luck, own fate. Thus, it leads to the internal family problem, family tension.
Many a times, it is seen that parents approach Child Specialists, Psychologists, Astrologers, Counselors etc. to have a consultation & seeking remedies of these so-called problems of their children/wards. These, however, actually, lead to the destruction of the future of the child. The child begins thinking that she/he is not at all capable of doing anything, her/his future is dark. And, later on, the child becomes non-cooperative, depressed, obsessed and un-social.
Every one of us is born with our own destiny. God has assigned specific work & task for each one of us. Whatever we do, only that will happen at last, for which purpose we have taken birth. All the five fingers of our hand are different from one another. Then, how can we think that all of us will row the same boat, and will shine as bright morning stars?
As parents, it is our prime duty to guide our children. To inculcate them good habits, to remind & train them to be a good human-being, which is, actually, lacking these days. On the contrary, we are preparing our children for an unnecessary competitive world, for an uncertain future, for that choice or selection, which we could not fulfill in our lives. And, now, we want to see our children fulfilling our dreams!
Also, it is worth to mention that depression, frustration & negativity etc., are born when we try to copy others. It is a general tendency among us to compare other’s children with ours. This is not, at all, a healthy sign. It just creates hatred, jealousy and an unnecessary competition. Without the real interest to what we are doing, this will, simply, increase our burden only.
The real meaning of ‘Success’ is the happiness in our lives; but not the wealth or positions we have earned. Most of us do not understand this. It should not be measured in terms of materialistic objects, we have possessed. Our faulty education system does not teach us spirituality, moral values, and ethics. Hence, most of us remain internally/mentally weak and break down easily.
Every one of us, is born with own liking & disliking, own taste, own choice. Being a responsible parent, being the light of our children, we should, rather, teach them to be social, to be responsible, to be a good citizen. Rest, they will find their own path. Also, teach them to be faithful & trust-worthy to the Almighty God, to their seniors, to their teachers, and to their parents, love their younger. Grow the habit in them to share. “Sharing is Caring!” — these will help our children to care for others. “Simple living, and high thinking” should be the ‘motto’ of their lives.
Remember, children are nothing, but, just a mould of mud. It is you, O’ Parents, who will shape it. Decide, how you will shape it.
Have patience, my dear parents. Give time to bloom our children. Nurture them with your good values, with your good etiquette. They will, for sure, reward you in time.
— Pranab Jyoti Thakuria
20 June, 2020
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